While I understand you don't want another T, and that T does see couples and families... It is an EXTREMELY difficult shift to go from being an individual therapist to a couples therapist, and is usually not recommended, especially with the length of time you have had with T. T's alliance is with you and is there to support you. To bring in a spouse changes that dynamic and can cause a lot of intense feelings and triangulation. I've always been trained to refer out if it shifts from individual to couples counseling, so that I can continue my work and another may take on the aspects of couples. It's a whole different ball game.

In my experience when I've tried to make the shift, it hasn't worked well... I wish I could say otherwise, and perhaps others can shine some light on it.