I think one of the things that makes it work for us is that none of us are threatened by our t having a relationship with the other person. Rainbow, to bring it back to you (sorry), if you feel you would be threatened by your t spending time with your husband also, that is something to think about. I know you said you can't do an extra session, but that would be better. That way you still get all of your one-on-one time with your t and perhaps will feel less like your time is being taken away from you. Just a thought.