Hi all,

I'm new here and have registered to ask for some advice.

My partner and I (been together 12 years and have 2 children) recently split after I found she was having an affair.

We have been on and off for the past 5 or so years and last year when we last split she ended up on antidepressants after I suggested she consult a doctor about her feeling down.

Her moods over the past year have been a little up and down but the last 3 or so months she has been quite - different.

She has overspent on designer clothes and then lied to me, she has gone out drinking a lot more and her moods are sometimes the opposite of what you'd expect from a depressed person. These and the affair are quite out-of-character.

She is currently not talking to me at all since I found out (as if I have been bad for finding out) and as I'm not living there any more she is very distant with me (very distant and quite angry with me). I still go to see the kids but it feels very awkward.

I feel she would benefit from being assessed but cant possibly suggest that to her as she is now. Her parents tell me 'she is fine' and make me feel like I'm trying to make her out to be crazy!

As some of you guys on here are BP and others have dealt with BP with loved ones; what are your thoughts?

Would I be out of order going to speak with her doctor and letting them know what I know? Or would this be regarded as intrusion and a no-no!?

I've been through this before with her where she puts all these walls up towards me and puts an act on for her parents etc. She always seems to blame me for her feelings/moods and she knows I know her so very well so I guess she wants me out of the picture whilst she is like this. I only want to help her and try and get our family and lives back on track.

Since this time we split over an affair I cant help but think she is on a self destruct path and maybe this time she wont open up to me again. I'm worried about her and the effects all this is having on the kids!

Any suggestions on how to approach this?