Oh Boy......is she on a mood stabilizer as well as the antidepressants? If she isn't and her mood is still up and down and manic crazy....it's a pretty good litmus test for bipolar disorder. In which case you're most likely going to have to wait until she crashes, and wants to come back. (In my opinion) There is no way you can talk to her right now when she is this irrational and angry.

If you're going to go to a doctor...go for yourself first. Don't tell her, because she may chalk it up to you doing something sneaky, and trying to get her locked up. Go so you can learn how to cope with her, and her disease, and get some comfort in knowing it's not all you.

Parents often don't want to admit something is wrong because it means it's hereditary or they "missed" something. It's a lot to take at a conscience level for a parent. Plus....they raised her. They are used to her...so they may not see anything as wrong.

I blamed my husband for my getting bored in our relationship. He does work a lot, but I've had to find other things to do. Don't blame yourself. I think you're just going to have to wait until she comes down....and that might be when she runs out of money, or something else.

Best of luck to you. You're awesome for caring so much to help. That's not common!!