Hi Elizabeth...well this situation does suck. You are probably experiencing a lot of emotions! You want to be there for him and you want to get him help but at the same time you are wondering why he did this to you? I used to have a bad addiction to pornography. I'm free from it now. And I have to say that stuff is very addicting. It's a form of escapism. It's sexual yet in a way it has nothing to do with sex...it's a way of killing time...of feeling different and not feeling numb. This may be hard to believe but I don't think it has anything to do with you.

I can't give you advice. I trust you are smart enough to deal with it on your own. What I would do...I'd really try to communicate with him. You have to see for yourself how willing he is to get help. I don't think I personally would rush into any decision. You sound like you a very supportive person, so I'm sure you will make the best decision for him and for yourself as well.

I am very sorry you are going through this...it really isn't fair at all, is it? To be in a relationship with someone and then to experience this, life shouldn't be so hard. I feel for you, Elizabeth. I wish you well.

I like your quote, btw, is that from Seinfeld?