Acanthony, Thanks for your response! I know that my bfs behavior is not a reflection on me, I have done nothing to deserve this. He has told me that he does not think of the girls he does this with as being real, and I suppose to him they are like an interactive pornography that cators to him. I am very traumatized by his lying, and the mistrust I feel for him is extraordinary. It doesn't help that we have a semi-long distance relationship where we are apart 3 nights a week and these are when the events escalate in frequency.

I feel like he might be saying he needs help as a distraction to me. We both have psych degrees. He said he wanted help and I asked if he was interested in persuing that if we broke up or would he continue the harmful behavior, and he said no he wouldn't seek help if I left him. You can't lick an addiction if you are doing it for someone else.

Ugg. Festivis for the rest of us.