Thanks for posting amandalouis. Well, he didn't really ask me what my feelings are, he just asked if I'm sad (kind of an obvious feeling if someone is seriously ill, especially since I told him I was crying about it), I nodded, and then he pushed me to tell her so. Expressing my feelings more is probably what I need to work on.

I guess what I'm curious about is whether people like pointed questions and advice? Asking what my feelings are about something probably wouldn't usually seem like a pointed question. "Why didn't you tell her that?" seems pointed to me.