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Originally Posted by Leed
Wow ~ You poor thing! That would be impossible to deal with! He obviously has some serious problems and needs HELP. I'm sure he realizes that how he's acting isn't "normal." But men seem to have a mental block when it comes to getting counseling. It guess they think it isn't "macho" to ask for help, or something. I don't know. My ex and I went to marriage counseling - and on the FIRST visit, the counselor said something to my ex that he didn't like, and he got up and stormed out of the office -- never to go back.
You can't live while walking on egg-shells all the time -- you never know when he's going to blow up! I sure hope you can get out soon -- and I hope HE comes to his senses and gets help. He sure needs it.
Keep us posted on your progress -- I'd really like to know! Hugs, Lee 
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He has flat out refused to go for help. He just keeps saying that this is how he is, this is how he's always been and he's not going to change, that our marriage isn't worth trying for.
His mood swings are so sudden and severe - when they are good i tell myself I can do this and i can make it but then they change again and it's very hard to maintain that certainty and stay in control in front of him.
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Originally Posted by TheByzantine
Hello, jadedmoonbeam. Is there a safe shelter in your area? Talking to someone there about your situation might be beneficial. If you are worried about getting your possessions out of his home and the division of any joint debts, you might see if you can find a domestic relations attorney who gives a free initial consultation. Many times the unwary get a lot of debt dumped on them, especially since he seems interested in moving out of state.
A safety plan is a good idea. http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/ste...stic-violence/
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Byz I am going to take your advice - I have a semi plan - i will make a full plan - and I will look into a shelter - I'm just so worried about my cats.
He has wanted to move out of state since I met him though. We go to the same place every year. We only have one investment account together, no joint credit cards (unless he did it without me knowing) no joint bank accounts.