How do I explain my new diagnosis of BPII to my grown up daughters?
The oldest is 33, has 2 degrees: sociology and psychology. She thinks she knows everything, and has an impatient personality. I don't think she's like me - more like her father. My youngest is 30, but extremely religious - she thinks that Jesus will fix everything (now her I worry about). Both are married with kids of their own.
They've always knew that Mom had issues - they just never knew what they were (and neither did I until my diagnosis last month). Three months ago I told the youngest one that I was in a severe depression again, and she arranged for me to go to a religious retreat. It was nice of course, but not the answer for BPII.
My soon-to-be-ex husband (not their father) has BPI and many other issues, FAE, and I think he also has a personality disorder. He refused to see a doctor, and was totally out of control. The girls know that he is mentally ill, has BPI, and that how he treated me was awful.
How do I tell them that I have BPII? They'll immediately think of my ex, and I'm afraid that they'll cut me off and not let me see my grandkids.
Is there a safe way to tell them?