tell T you NEED those stabilizing skills NOW! he shouldn't be 'forgetting' those.....tell him you NEED the structure and consistency. if he was doing a better job of providing for the needs you have that he does have the training to do, maybe then you aren't in the position of needing more support like the program offers. you definitely need to lay things out clearly for T, he seems like he is missing the boat a bit as far as meeting your needs in some ways....