Yeah, um, there are no absolutes, support is different then just doing it for someone. As a motivation it is great, but I would never say "do this or I'm gone." I truley think for meaningful change he has to really want it. I just FEEL like he is saying whatever he thinks he needs to say to keep me, be it, I need help, I won't do it again, bla bla bla. My pain is quickly turning to anger. I don't the goal of his actions was physically cheating, but I think it could have escalated if someone stroked his ego enough.
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Originally Posted by ACanthony
Well...ehhh...about the part where you can't beat the addiction if you are doing it for someone else...To be honest, I was addicted to porn for about 11 years (I'm 27 now). The moment I started going out with my ex was the moment I started getting free. I went a year without it while we dated. We broke up and I struggled with it but then was free again...but without her support I wouldn't have done it...you have to understand, these addictions, you almost feel worthless...it's like "why get free from it? For who? For what? No one loves me, etc"...then I got the support and it's like Alright! I love this girl and I'm going to do it for her. I also received help spiritually and started going to church...don't know if you believe in God but to me, it was what saved me.
Well the psych degrees probably makes it worse because people with psych degrees know what to say to fool you (i'm a psychologist myself).
If you want to talk more PM if ya'd like. It's probably a lot more complicated
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