I'm not sure that you have an argument fallacy problem so much as a problem with how you respond to "the others". As the first, Health Central link you gave says, "Being direct about what you need gives you more of a chance of actually being listened to and receiving a positive response."

It's not another person's effort of caring that will convince you that you are worthy of a better life, it is you, convincing yourself through your own experiences of "being listened to and receiving a positive response" after you have been direct about what you need?