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Jul 10, 2011, 07:05 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Bless your heart ~ this must be awfully difficult for you. I'm sorry you're going thru so much.
I would definitely talk with my therapist about the rape -- obviously that has a lot to do with your "melt down" -- and it's something that you should NOT try to handle on your own. Plus, the therapist can advise you on how and when to tell your husband, so that he'll believe you and he won't think you're just trying to make him stay.
I also think your husband is 'running away' from things. He said he didn't know "it was that bad." Well, that right there says that he is reluctant to take this kind of thing on, because he just doesn't understand it. Perhaps if he had known about the rape, he would have handled it differently, BUT as you said he might have taken the law into his own hands -- and then you'd really have a problem! 
Talk to your therapist -- he/she can best advise you. Plus you have other issues that would benefit from the counseling.
God bless & please take care. Things will get better. Hugs, Lee 
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