I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a similar male therapist that doing very unethical things like taking me alone to the beach, taking me out to dinner, etc. HE called it "working on my inner child." At that time I was very vulnerable from working through a divorce and some other things I don't feel comfortable sharing...but HE knew the issues.

He was also working without a license and in the state of FL that is a HUGE no-no!!

Once I went to grad school for mental health counseling, I realized how he was totally inappropriate. The state couldn't pull his license since he didn't have one. I started bringing these things to his attention (now mind you I saw him for maybe 5+ years) and the next thing I got was a nasty letter from him saying that I was "a crazy housewife", etc. etc.) That just shattered me.

During grad school I had a session with a prof that I admired so much about the above. This prof who was an excellent therapist said unfortunately that happens all too often and the women are afraid to step forth. He said I certainly had a case against him, but to think carefully. If I brought up a civil suit the T. would go after me with everything he has; his letter showed that.

To add insult to injury, he was touted as a Christian therapist (which is why I went to him in the first place) and was a church elder.

I knew several women in my church who went to him and then abruptly stopped going with no explanation. When I sat in the waiting room, I always noticed that the client coming out, plus the client waiting when I came out, were always women and very attractive women.

Unfortuantely predators exist in any category, but I think one who we trust with our innermost thoughts is one of the worst.

Good luck to you!!