when you feel unsure about your friends, etc. try making a two columned list. one titled "what i know", the other, "what i fear".
first column: what i know jane is always there for me.
what i fear i can't trust jane.
she's not a good friend.
if you try this exercise i believe you can sift out the irrational, paranoidal thoughts, miss laura  . in the above example the two columns contradict each other. one rational, one untrue. both cannot be true at the same time so you can rule out the irrational thought. hope this helps you.
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