I'm sorry this has happened to you nicoleb2 I have had similar things happen to me too. Who was the messenger that informed you that your sister and friends were going out?

I would feel the same way you do, and it would cause huge emotions in me. Spending time in bed is good. I do that and it's okay to do this. You are finding ways to comfort and self soothe yourself Good job !!

Perhaps stepping back from these people for awhile until the hurt as been reduced, to reduce your exposure to further hurt to protect yourself. You have been violated in a way and you are raw and during this time, it's better to insulate yourself until you have healed. Oh and don't forget the most important thing.............. do something nice for yourself. While they go out and do their thing, why not you go out and do something like, get a sinfully large ice cream float or whatever you really really like to indulge yourself with.

Next time you are expected to do something for them, you have two options. You can do it but don't expect anything in return, because this sets you up for more injury and hurt, or you can say the word "no". Don't give a reason why, silence is golden, let them figure it out for themselves.

Let them go out, just let them go and do their thing. You can't change them, you are powerless over this. You can't make them feel bad or guilty, even though you want them to, but you do have power over how you react and how you deal with this. This is where your power is, so go and empower yourself and be a bigger person than those that are small and on a mission to self-nurture yourself. I bet you will feel much better about the whole issue once you have taken good care of you !!!