I feel for you. I have a 14-y/o daughter who's almost the same way. She spends more time avoiding doing the work, making excuses, arranging pencils, finding lost items, crying about being stupid, than it would take to just get it done.

Stimulant medication is out of the question for her. The neuropsych suggested a tricyclic antidepressant, but I haven't had the nerve to consider starting her on it. I talked with her dad about it and he's more comfortable putting her on something like that than the newer stimulants that have such awful side effects.

I don't know. Something has to change or she'll never get through high school.

I feel your frustration, I really do.