Hi Rap -

I just scanned your post. I have printed it off and will read it more carefully later.

Marriage is a commitment, and not about being in love. My husband and I have been married 33 years. He has difficulty being close. Fortunately, God has given me the capacity to understand this. He is my dearest friend, and we have had ebbs and flows in our relationship. I am glad I did not leave during one of the difficult times, because I have seen him grow in ways I wouldn't have imagined.

Maybe you can just tell him about having difficulty being close.

Hugs,

EJ