NO means NO --no matter what the cercumstances. and if a person has sex with another without their permission or when they are unable to make that decision medically induced (date rape drug, sleeping pills, and or any other medications that render the person unable to give permision and or fight off unwanted sexual acts) or not it is called RAPE.

When a person sleeps there is a chemical released that basically paralyses a person during the REM cycle of sleep (the state during sleep where a person dreams) otherwise people would be sleepwalking and acting out their dreams. Sleep walking and acting out in any way due to not having this chemical shows up in childhood, so if he he did not have this chemical he would have been raping everyone in his home as a teenager every time he dreamed of his idols and girlfriends. So if he is having sex while still asleep he needs medical attention before he dreams he is driving the car somewhere, or dreams he's having sex and takes a stranger against their will which is rape just like he is doing to you - rape.

normally (without a medical problem) it is not possible for a man to have sex while still asleep, They can have a wet dream but that is not full out having sex while asleep.

This is a common statement made by men who would rather have the significant other instead of self gratification. A great show that discusses this from both the sexual point of view and medical point of view is Talk Sex With Sue. It airs on the Oxygen channel. Sue Johannson is the professional that has the show and a website. On the show they take calls ins from people who have sexual based queestions.

One thing she says is -- if the man is sleeping while he is doing this to his significant other how did he manage before he met significant other - answer he controlled himself and used self gratification, otherwise he would have been arrested for rape of whoever he got while sleeping. If he can control himself without a significant other then he can control himself with a significant other. If he cant control himself he needs medical and psychological help to locate and take care of the problem.

My suggestion - tell him if he has sex with you like this again you are going to call your family physician and let him / her know what is going on so that he can get the medical help he needs in controlling this medical problem. If he says it isn't medical then tell him fine the physician can recommend a therapist to help him control his uncontrolable urges of raping you while he is asleep. If he says its not medical or psychological then he can control himself and you will have him arrested for rape because he is doing the equivelent of what people do with rhohipnol (date rape drug). You are taking medication that renders you incapable of making the decision to have sex just like the date rape drug does. and he is taking you just like those that use the date rape drug for their sex by waiting until the person is unconscious (sleeping is being unconscious) and then having sex with them. He is raping you and he either needs to control himself or get the medical or psychological or judicial help to control his actions.