Hi Hankster... I'm so glad you brought up the memory, "word for word." Some people may have photographic memory... I remember dialogues, what people said... my aural memory is so good that if I hear someone say something in a foriegn language I can repeat it accurately enough that a native speaker knows what I'm saying. I've repeated dialogue I over heard in Zulu and Portugese, and native speakers knew what I was saying. (Those are languages I can't speak.) So yes... the aural memory really gets me... there always does seem to be a core of meaning that my so called "false memories" are built around.
I wonder if in general folks on the schizophrenic spectrum remember voice more clearly than others... it might explain why so many of our hallucinations are aural.
Regarding blame... I can't blame my brother, he had just the same horribly traumatic upbringing as I did... but I can see the temptation to blame folks. I could blame my Mum, but it's not her fault she was mentally ill. I could blame my Dad, but it's not his fault he ended up caring for young children and a psychotic wife... in the end it's best not to blame anyone. But I wish my memories could be trusted...