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Originally Posted by zbmom
I'm not sure whether you posted this looking for advice or support but my personal philosophy is that if a relationship is hurting you more than it is helping you it is time to move on. It sounds as though you are pushing aside your own needs and feelings to "be there" for him. You deserve to take care of yourself too.
Something I was recently shown that helps me when I feel sad and lonely:
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
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Thank you. The purpose of my post? There are a few. I wanted to put down my feelings on virtual paper so I could see them as object. Looking at them in an exterior environment, posted here on the boards, gives me at least a "symbol" of emotional distance which is a beginning. At the same time, I thought someone might come along with wise words, suggestions for the future, some comfort, some strength, some constructive criticism. Almost anything under the sun is better than the paralysis that is the handmaiden of depression.
And I guess I must have been wishing for a poem, since around the same time you posted I was off on other boards searching for a poem whose title I can't remember.
Thank you for your post. It is a beautiful poem. Inspirational words do have a measurable, positive physical/emotional effect so I very much appreciate your gift of poetry.