Some people shine best when they are in a giving situation. When in a job that pertails to dealing with others and you are the one that knows the correct infomation and are performing a service, there is not much need for a pretend type of attitude.

If for some reason you lose that comfort zone by losing the job or being rejected somehow it can be devestating. Many of the people who have lost jobs in this economy really struggle as their job gave them the comfort zone of self worth they needed. There can then be feelings of anger and self doubt and even bring on low self esteem which can lend to the inability to even desire to be around others. And much of this runs in an unconscious level and can escalate into anxiety and depression. As we get older those feelings of taking charge and being outgoing can often fade as we do not have the luxury of years ahead of us as we once had.

We call it midlife crises as we finally get to a point where we see the time for achieving our dreams has grown short and our youth is behind us. Often people work longer because they don't really know what else to do, it was always what their life was about. Even empty nesters can go through an awkward time period as they spent so much time living around their children they actually forgot how to live for themselves.

I know it sounds strange but often we never really learn to just live for ourselves and in that we can become lonely as we didn't invest as much as we thought in ourselves. And sometimes people can feel they are unworthy because they never got to make a big statment in life. But no one says you have to make that big statment. Going out and taking courses or classes are not about meeting others, it is more about meeting yourself.

This is something to really think about. I think about it too. Not everyone is born to be a socialite, you don't have to be one, don't have to be popular, but you do need to challenge yourself and that could mean looking for something to learn that YOU enjoy and get something out of. One can be very good in a professional control situation, they have the answers as stated above, but that is not the same as just free socializing. And we often don't like to do something we never really learned how to master, unknowingly.

Open Eyes