Anika, have you read the book called loving someone with bipolar disorder by Juile Fast? It really has helped my relationship with my husband like from night to day. It is very helpful and you can both work on exercises to help you and him realize where you are at in a episode. Let me know I have a chart that I used from the website the arthur has. I can show it to you and it may help. Not sure if I already shared this with you my memory not so well right now.