that is part of the relationship though.......if she talks down to you, that is a concern, and is part of the relationship dynamic. if she talks to you like a needy friend, or a younger sister, that is a concern. that is not what should be in a T relationship! I do not mean to put down your T, because in some ways she sounds really nice, but I think she isn't being entirely objective or impartial anymore where you're concerned, and if she is going to be providing a professional service to you, she should be those things, and should talk to you in a more professional manner.