Thank you so much for all of the responces and support.

I'm still having a problem dealing with this. we have discussed this on countless occasions and nothing has changed. It has even happend nights that we have talked about it earlier in the day. He says sorry and we go on with our day.

I feel horrible because I should want to have sex with him, but the more he pushes me like this the less I want to do anything with him.

And i am not ignoring his feelings. I know that he has needs but that does not give him the excuse to take advantage of me while I am sleeping. If he tried while I was awake and not tierd then I probably would have sex. I just don't take well to the feeling of being violated to suit his needs!

I am not sure that he will get medical help but I will discuss it with him tonight.

Thank you so much for your insight.