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Originally Posted by hankster
Looks to me like the results speak for themselves. T is maintaining her boundaries (T didn't take the client on vacation with her!). As for the car towing, sometimes they charge you extra if you don't get to it right away, so I can see why T did it, esp after a gym session. You don't need that kind of stress after a session. We can see in other threads that T is indeed gently nudging Pcats out of the nest. I can't believe how strong Pcats has been in light of all these PC questions, I would have had my face stuck in a B&R31 bucket long ago. But bottom line any boundary violations must be talked about (as we are doing here), not swept under the rug, so this conversation is a good thing.
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I respectfully disagree about "T maintaining her boundaries", because she (not Cats, this isn't her fault) set up blurred ones to begin with. I'm not a T nor do I work in the mental health field, I'm just a well-paying customer. You don't interact with patients outside of the therapeutic relationship. It destroys the integrity and purity of the whole thing, so to speak. Now, as someone else said, maybe you have a situation where you and T are in the same church or club, neighborhood etc. and running into each other is unavoidable. But that's different. What if Cats' T realizes she's been wrong this whole time and stops "blurring" the lines, tells Cats that she's immediately stopping the activities outside of the office? That's not fair to Cats, because she's been thinking this is OK for the last few years. Therapists hold so much power, because the emphasis is all on you in the relationship, not them. It's not a friendship.