I agree...your son got himself into this mess and it's up to him to get himself out of it. He's an adult and needs to be held accountable for his behavior and his choices in life.

Babying him or bailing him out would be the worst thing to do.

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I mean on top of all the things that are your responsibilities, you have to deal with people not doing their part. It would completely frustrate and anger me beyond belief.

Hang in there.