And may I just make an adjustment to my last msg? (One of the things I love about this website is that you can clean things up, or polish things up - refine your own statements or whatever). I'm learning to work past my own narcissistic stuff, so I realized since writing about PMS that - augh - you can have an overall concept in your mind and assume people reading understand your connections, and of course they don't! Focusing on PMS is probably going to make you feel not-very-well-listened to. And there's the 12-step approach to problem solving, which uses no cross-talk, and i'm kind of in that mode - just sharing my OWN experience. But what I really MEANT to convey is that I've learned how important it is to value my own process of accomplishing things on a day to day basis - to separate my process, which is unique, from other people's. I think the pivotal moment in this realm came to me when i was reading Nancy Ratey's book on ADHD/ADD - The Disorganized Mind. She talks about how she helps her clients by accepting them, and helping them to accept themselves. ADD/ADHD people can, as we've all read and heard, accomplish a lot more than other people who have (somehow!) managed to comply with traditional work schedules. They (we) can learn to honor the fact that our minds jump from one subject to the next, and watch those patterns for long enough to capitalize on them (she explains it better and more thoroughly than I am here). So what I'm trying to say is that long periods of inactivity are something to work around, to chip away at, with baby steps (she's SO good at getting one to see the value of baby-steps. It's REALLY affected the level of hope vs. hopelessness for me re: the way I see the world and my future). It's something to not be afraid of (embrace the monster and it shrinks) - you have to get close enough to it to see how you can impact it. Augh - I'm LEARNING to express myself concisely and effectively about this sort of thing. I hope it helps.