thanks Perna! Yeah that's what my boyfriend tells me a lot, sometimes I do good with that... Other times not so, especially if I'm high in emotions or problems. I have trouble seeing ''grey' areas'' (my boyfriend tells me its not all black and white, there's grey) and sometimes I have difficulty but it gets better with in time, I try to better as time goes on. Ill try to not jump into the bad right away... Thank you all, all good advice