Remember that your husband needs help to get through this, as well. Encourage him to see someone on his own.Bipolar is like a last name; once you are married, you share it.

A good marriage councelor will be helpful, too. In our situation, my wife at first said she had the affair because she was not getting what she needed from me. It took a while for her to realize that after years of pushing me away one day and expecting the moon the next (its a rapid-cycle-bipolar-thing) I had given up. The marriage councelor has helped us with this, and was the one who originally told her to see a psychiatrist because he could tell 10 minutes after meeting us she was bipolar and manic.

My best wishes for both of you, and stay the heck away from that tharapist. He is, for lack of a better term, a predator.