Today my T was asking me about my needs and what they are - particularly what I need from others. I have no idea

I said I was quite happy being on my own - my T then got a sneaky question in about SI and said if I don't need anyone, how can I explain my need for SI - and what my needs are at those times which would be an alternative to SI.

I again have no idea

I know no-one can tell me what my needs are and I knw there are distractions I can use to try to avoid SI - but I am really stuck in trying to understand at those times what my actual needs are.

Does anyone else know what theirs are?