Dear FitGal, ((((((( HUGS )))))))

I can sympathize with you, for I have been where you are at right now.... I found that it helped me to enjoy the time I spent with my husband if I connected with him on an emotional level outside of the bedroom.... we both took an active part in each other's interest, for (men bond while doing activities) - (woman bond while talking & sharing their life).

Then when the time came for us to be sexual with each other - I did not place my interest (or goal) upon having to achieve an "O" in order to call the moment an success.... in stead I just relaxed and enjoyed being touched and kissed, with or without the big "O"

Hope this HELPS.............................

LoVe,
Rhapsody -