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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Today my T was asking me about my needs and what they are - particularly what I need from others. I have no idea 
I said I was quite happy being on my own - my T then got a sneaky question in about SI  and said if I don't need anyone, how can I explain my need for SI - and what my needs are at those times which would be an alternative to SI.
I again have no idea
I know no-one can tell me what my needs are and I knw there are distractions I can use to try to avoid SI - but I am really stuck in trying to understand at those times what my actual needs are.
Does anyone else know what theirs are? |
Just theorizing here...
I, myself, am rather detached from most socialization. I don't really find many interactions profitable and thereby avoid them if at all possible. I think, ideally, that the person I wish most to interact with is someone that is very much like myself. Just to climb further up Mount Narcissism, I think the person I wish most to interact with IS myself; another me. Realistically though I don't think I would get along with this person very well simply because it is in my nature to find fault if none is easily visible. You then of course go into this whole 'duality of man' scenario where I both love and hate myself. This is kind of a paradoxical situation, obviously, as you can't both want something and not want it at the same time. So the issue has to lie somewhere other than what my personal desires are and maybe more in the areas of how I perceive myself and how I perceive others. e.g. What faults do I fail to see in myself that I see in others? What strengths do others have in common with me that I fail to recognize? Where in lies the disconnect?
Tl;dr I don't like people because they're different from me, but I probably wouldn't like them if they were identical to myself. Perhaps due to an underlying lack of cognition when identifying likenesses and differences between us.