Tell her those things when you see her again. Chances are, she needs to hear that from you, and then you need to be willing for the possible consequences of telling her those things - ie, that the relationship may very well begin to change, and it may be hard to deal with losing some of those things that T has been giving you, it may be hard to deal with the boundaries re-tightening if T chooses to do that.
But she needs to hear this from you, whatever the consequences are! She stepped over her boundaries and it has caused hurt/trouble for you, so she needs to know that and own her part in what the consquences of her boundary crossings have been for you.