Hey hun,

did something happen in your last session that has brought up these thoughts and feelings?

It sounds like your therapist has been crossing the professional relationship boundaries and treating you more like a friend, which can be nice at times but usually the therapist at some stage will realise they have gone too far and start to back-track..leaving the client feeling worse.

When I look at your list, I have a few questions:
YOU are the one that divulged your personal life to me

Does she do this in order to help you open up about your own issue or does she just start talking about herself?

YOU are the one that suggested we go for coffee and meet outside of therapy

Was there a reason for this? Was it to help with social anxiety? It really is breaking the theraputic relationship in the professional sense.

YOU are the one that told me not to listen to my parents

Do you feel she was wrong? did she say - do not listen to your parents or was it that your parents were upsetting you and suggested that you try to step back from them?

YOU are the one that told me to trust you

What has she done that makes you regret trusting her hun?

YOU are the one that prescribed me meds that I became addicted to

Did she warn you of the possibility of this happening? Are the meds she perscribed addictive or was it that you personally found them addictive?

YOU are the one that told me to move out when I had no money

My T has suggested this at times too but I guess we have to take responsibity for making the decison to do something. Your T didnt force you to move out hun. Do you feel you did it to please her? if you feel it was the wrong choice, can you move back with your parents?

YOU are the one that told me I could call and text you

I know this has been a problem for many people including yourself. Has she set any limits on this? If not really it is her fault if she is feeling it is too much.

YOU are the one that started phoning me

What was she phoning you for hun?

YOU are the one that started buying me gifts

This seems to really cross a boundary as its often almost taboo that a client should want to buy the T a gift so for the therapist to be buying the client gifts seems very strange - where the gifts things that were meant to help you progress in some way?

YOU are the one that created my dependency on you

I can see how it feels that way hun and in many respects, because she doesnt have good boundaries, it can lead to this happening..

***massive hugs!!!***