((((silje))))) ((((((((((SoupDragon)))))))))caught me again!----yes! More often than not many posters will reply out of a feeling of pain for the poster, and true empathy; the poster has touched their core...................The response given in like manner will help the poster; we all feel it when someone is being REAL with us.

When one replies in this manner, it helps both the poster and the responder--this is, I
believe, what PC is all about.

However, I have noted many people responding out of their own insecurities, needing to feel "better than", or responding out of "life experience" and actually patronizing the poster--condescending to the poster. When someone belittles me with such a "fake" response; I am deeply injured, as are others (I have noted) on PC.

This is unecessary behavior. Unless you check my page, you'd not know how old I am...you've no knowledge of my life experiences...Perhaps I have been through whatever you think you can teach me; perhaps I have already settled and incorporated many healing processes that the responder knows nothing about.

In the post you quoted SD (which I deleted!!!) I also mentioned that I am Empathic...I am so much so, that I can feel you right through the computer...there are posts that I must not read, they hurt me too much. You, and others here, are also empathic--you are really feeling the post. You actually reply out of pain...this is good for both. It is why I have watched and observed many on PC with interest. (You are amongst them!!!)

Many on PC are not posting for "sympathy", or asking for advice or validation...they just need to vent, and know they are not alone. A hug will suffice!!! Verbal diaarhea incorporating "advice",
false "sympathy", and "validation" can and often do injure the poster.

You understand what I mean SD--Avid Reader put it very well in her post also.

I got my shield up, people, let the arrows fly..I said what I said, I meant what I said, and I'm letting it sit right here-----------------------------------------with all good intentions--pax-theo