Cats, I've been following your threads and my heart goes out to you. I'm very sorry to hear about your mom. I know how scary family illnesses are, especially when there are few details and lots of uncertainty. About your T... personally I would feel hurt and betrayed if my T said those things to me. I don't understand the things your T does, and maybe you see it differently, but to me it seems like she is having difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries then blaming you. From here the dynamic she's set up looks unhealthy and I hope that the two of you can correct that or that you find the strength to see a new T. Neither option sounds easy, but I think you deserve to be treated better than she is treating you now. I'm glad to see that you have so much support here and I hope that you feel less alone. Sending an abundance of positive energy your way. Stay safe and strong. -CoY