Thanks so much for all your replies with advice and support.

I left work early and went around the house. They were having dinner and my xpartner offered my some, which I accepted. She seemed quite calm and normal but I can tell if I was to ask her to come to the doctors with me she'd point blank refuse and say she is now fine with everything. Its like I know what she is going to say.

I'm wondering if its worth leaving for a while longer, perhaps another 2 or 3 weeks. I cant tell if she is on a high or a low or a mix or if she is now actually her normal self. But I do know she will put up walls and deny anything is wrong when I confront her with my concerns. I also know she has no intentions of getting back with me; this is quite typical of previous breakups between us; however as things have gone so much further this time she might think its best we dont revisit the relationship. I think she has freaked herself out. Plus, before now she has expressed how much she hates herself for hurting me in the past.

Have any of you guys been this way?

How long did it take for you to open up and listen to your other half after a big fallout like this?

Its as if she has decided to be on her own with the kids and accept this is life and thats that. I fear that if I try and talk her into coming to the doctors with me she will intentionally avoid me altogether and even get paranoid of me.