Cats, I'm sorry you had such a terrible interaction with your T. Do you like this therapist? She sounded like she had so much hostility built up towards you and then let it all come out splat at once. She doesn't sound professional or able to handle "her own stuff." My gut feeling when I read it, and this may sound severe, is to leave this T. The relationship sounds mucked up and I would ask, is it worth repairing?

From what you wrote, it sounds like one of your challenges is respecting boundaries that other people set. One of your T's issues sounds like she doesn't know how to set or maintain boundaries for clients. Her issue combined with your issue is no good! She is just what you don't need. That's why I suggest leaving her. It is not your responsibility to have to sit by while she figures out how to be a T, how to set boundaries for clients, etc. You deserve someone who already knows her job!

Anyway, Cats, that's my gut reaction.

I'm sorry this happened.

I'm really sorry about your Mom.