First of all you have two jobs already: being a student and taking care of a household. For paying work, make sure you look at whatever jobs are available through your university, too. A two year old has little self-discipline and is still mostly baby. While it is good to reinforce "say please!" or "you may have 1 cookie" when kids are that little they require patience from mom and dad more than anything, and you will end up repeating "say please" but if you do, eventually you will have a child who will say please (and thank you and excuse me, etc) unprompted. Consistency is the key. The absolute best thing you can do for the tot is to model good manners and cooperation and self discipline. The next best thing is making sure she has a regular bedtime. Since you are going to have two babies in the house the more quickly you and your girlfriend stop sweating the small stuff the better. If her hairy armpits or legs offend you, set out the razor, a towel and some nice lotion and say, "I want to pamper you" and shave 'em yourself. Since you have not had a good role model in husbanding and parenting, any counseling you can get free or low cost should be all to the good and might be available through your university, local child welfare agencies, religious institutions or even the local hospital. The people here are nice and should have loads of other ideas for you. I send you and your girlfriend and her baby and your baby love.