Who says they are separate sides of your sexuality at all?

I have lots of raunchy fun with my guy, and we're very much in love with each other. Part of sharing each other and being intimate is getting to know each others' sexuality and then fulfilling each others' sexual needs. Raunchy fun could be a big part of that for you.

What I'm getting at is you can define how you express your love with your partner any way you want. If you both love raunchy fun, and it brings you closer together as a couple, then that can be a way that you express your love for each other. That's what intimacy is all about, in the end.