Cats,

when I read your thread I just want to hug you and not let go until the pain goes away. When I read how she talks to you I think of how completely awful I would feel if my therapist said even a fraction of what she has said to you and my heart breaks for you.

The things she said about your last therapist having refered you to her was unprofessional, hurtful and really childish!

I can understand how hard it must be to make the decison to leave her or find someone new....she has been in your life for a long time and you have invested so much in the relationship with her, but when I read your posts it feels like a battered spouse who keeps getting abused but says they love the person and stays with them, only to be abused more.

If you told this stuff that she is saying to you, to another therapist I think they would be appauled.

Would you consider perhaps looking for another therapist and maybe seeing someone for a few appoints to test them out. You don't have to end with your current T before you do it and if I was you I wouldnt even tell her but it may just help you to talk to someone completely impartial (not even your last therapist)?? It's just a thought, I know its not easy.

I am glad your session went ok...but at the same time I am shocked by it also...how can she behave like she has no clue as to why you would feel the way you do. It's crazymaking!! It almost sounds like she is completely delusional. how can she treat someone like she has treated you and then act like everything is fine in the session!?

Does she ever talk to you face to face the way she does in phone calls??

****massive hugs****