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Don't scold or blame yourself--try to be gentle with yourself--increase your patience and self-nurturing activities

I hear you, appreciate your insight, agree with you 100% and I would give you this same advice and mean it with all the sincerity I could muster.

But...

I try and try and try some more to apply it to my healing but it is so hard. I go through the motions of cutting myself some slack and telling myself that I am doing the best I can. I intellectually "get it."

I do all the right things. Go through the self-care motions. Blah-blah-blah. I totally understand the hows and whys of the healing process but my head never connects it to my heart.

It's like someone singing the blues because they memorized the lyrics but they can't actually feel the soulful emotion of the music.

There is always that tug-- you should be over it by now--you need to get on with life--be productive--useful etc. etc. And I KNOW that voice is wrong but yet it remains, even though I tell it to shut the hell up.

Sigh.

Petunia