Trust your gut salukigirl! I haven't physically seen my ex in 2 weeks, though we text everyday. And honestly I just miss him more even knowing he's got a crapload of issues to work out.. if being out of the country for 2 weeks just made you realize that you're over it, then you're over it. I was married years ago and it took me 2 years to finally leave. When I did I didn't look back and I didn't miss him at all. It's amazing how differently I feel this time! You just gotta trust yourself and your feelings. The other stuff will work itself out. Maybe find a new place before you drop the bomb because living together after breaking up is PURE HELL and I'll never do it again!