Counselling will definitely help. For both of you individually as well as couple's. I think it's likely that his anger will resurface. It's a long road to recovery and it has many many ups and downs. Our bodies have the ability to filter things for what you can handle to a degree, there's a chance he really doesn't feel angry right now, but at some point, I believe it's going to come back.

Heading into a relationship most people say cheating is a dealbreaker. When I found out about my boyfriend's cheating, I spent a long time wondering why the heck I still loved him. I was supposed to leave right? If you are wondering if you can make it because of your remorse, that's understandable. But if you are wondering if you have the same loving feelings for your husband, you need to decide quick.

If you are going to make it work, be open with him. If he asks a question, even if you think he won't like the answer, answer it honestly. Witholding more information will make things 100x worse. Let him make decisions for his life. Do NOT contact your affair partner. Ever. Ever ever. No new contact = no new hurts. You cannnot be friends with him and keep your husband (sane at least).