Alas...my oldest is showing major signs of BP. Huge mood swings, and high anxiety with rage. It's too much for her to cope with. It is for me, and I'm a full grown adult. She can do some things as long as the 7 year old isn't there, because she fixates on her, and my husband, and gets rageful. I'd be scared to leave them alone. When I go, and suggest for her to do it, she just says, "I'd rather you take all of us." While we're there, she'll get overwhelmed, and angry that the babies touch everything. If my nanny will come back...it should be all good. IF