I belong to an online mom's group, all of our now 2year olds were born in the same month of the same year. The group is on facebook. Usually they are all super supportive of each other.

Well, my son has a heart defect, that might be getting worse. For our insurance, we need a referral to go back to the Cardiologist. So right now I'm waiting for that referral to get approved. And we're talking a few days here, not months.

Anyway, so now I'm getting bashed for waiting for that referral! They're saying things like "Well, if it was MY baby, I would go outside my insurance, and even if it means massive debt, I wouldn't wait on the insurance", "It is way past time to be more proactive", "This is not the time to sit back and wait", all kinds of hurtful things, just short of calling me a bad mother for waiting on my insurance.

It is so easy to judge someone when you're not in their shoes, and they should be very very thankful that they're not. I'm having such a hard time right now, and I really needed some support, not a bashing.