Thank you everyone for replying. Yes, I have been going to counseling she has went once with me but she does not have insurance so it cost alot. When I ask her questions it makes me get angry when she gives me the answers its like I alrdy have my mind set on what happen and I feel she is just trying to make me feel better. Or it turns into a fight because she tends to get tired of hearing it. The counseling takes a month in between the sessions and I do good for like 2 days after then I start hurting again. Everyone just keeps telling me I cannot think about it like I have to get over it right now if I want the relationship to work. I can do good till I wake up in the morning after the dreams then I feel like she needs to be there for me and she will just be sleeping or get up and walk out and I get so angry at this, I feel like Im the one with the problem. Thank you all for your help.