Unfortunately, the company pays the salary.....the company has a right to say what looks they want their company to put forward especially if they touch the public. Most companies find the neutral look to be the best because it doesn't bring about any bad thoughts is people who may be very turned off by extreme looks & take their business elsewhere. When we are working for a company & on company time & pay, we are representing them whether we like it or not.....& it's necessary to represent them in the way they want to be represented.

You can be yourself the other 16 hours of the day.....do you really forget who you are in only 8 hours at work each day when you have the other 16 to be yourself? I understand the need to be yourself......but sometimes we need to fit in when we need the job.....one can always express themselves the rest of the day.

Wishing you the best with the situation you are in....only you really know what you are able to live with.....& sometimes that also changes with time.