When I was married, I did not share much of anything from therapy with my husband. I considered my therapy very personal and just between me and my therapist. He did not know when I went for appointments. He did not express much interest in my therapy and I appreciate that he respected my privacy. I also tended not to share with him when I went to doctors' appointments either, so this was just more of the same pattern we had established in the marriage. We were pretty individuated, perhaps too.

I never had a sense that my H felt left out of my therapy. If he wanted to have therapy, he was always welcome to go to a therapist. He actually did for a while, and he never told me. I found out later. That's fine. It was between him and his therapist and I did not feel left out when I found out.

skysblue, did your H tell you he felt left out by your therapy? If so, do you think it could be because you talk about your therapy to your H? If you don't talk about it much, he probably won't feel left out. Out of sight, out of mind?